Today, we are learning about reciprocity, the foundation of any amicable relationship or what some people call, manners. It is an elementary lesson that everyone learned once upon a time from shows such as Barney, Sesame Street, Blue. At its core, reciprocity is about returning in kind what you have been given—the more optimistic version of an eye for an eye.
In the recruiting world, reciprocity means thanking a recruiter who helped you, following up with an alumna who gave you advice on an interview, or staying in touch with the people you worked with last summer. You roll your eyes now—yes, these all sound very basic, but you would be amazed how many of you don’t do it. These are ways through which you maintain good relationships (last week, I talked about the importance of networking). People who are shortsighted will think that their last interaction with the recruiter/alumna/counselor is the endgame (for those who have taken strategy). I’m sorry, but in life, there is no endgame. The consulting/finance world is small, which means that if you do not reciprocate a.) word can get around that you are rude, and b.) chances are high that you will run into the same person again in the future. Reciprocate—do not burn your bridges!
In my mind, there are two types of reciprocation. The first is the immediate type—the thank you note that follows an act of kindness. The second is long-term—you follow up with someone who has helped you prepare for recruiting or mentored you. You need to let them know about the job/interview that you landed with their help, what you have been up to, or just let them know you are still alive and kicking. No one will think you are rude if you do not reciprocate in the long-term, but that’s because they will have already forgotten about you. Baby will get left in the corner if Baby does not stay in regular contact with her mentor/recruiter/coworkers.
Immediate reciprocation:
1.) After an interview, always send a thank you note to the interviewer.
2) After an informational/mock interview with an alumna, always send a thank you note to the alumna.
3) After someone answered your questions/returns your email with advice, always reply with a thank you.
When in doubt, you cannot thank someone enough.
Long-term reciprocation:
1.) When you land an interview/job/internship, remember to follow up with people who helped you, and let them know.
2.) After your internship, remember to stay in contact with your boss/coworkers/mentors and let them know what you are up to, ex. your plans after graduation.
If you need advice on how to write a good thank you note, visit CWS website > Job Search Essentials.
– The Recruiting Team – part of the Reality Check Series