by kbender2 | May 8, 2025 | Embrace True Happiness
People come to the Ombuds Office for a wide variety of reasons, including searching for options due to struggling relationships with colleagues, departments, classmates, institutions, and even with themselves. It seems paradoxical that one would want to fix a...
by kbender2 | Apr 22, 2025 | Uncategorized, Value of Ombuds Office
There are some at Wellesley who are fully aware of the campus Ombuds Office, some who have never heard of it, and others who are vaguely aware but not entirely sure what its functions are. In a nutshell, the office is here to serve students, staff and faculty in a...
by kbender2 | Apr 3, 2025 | Thoughtful Negotiation
When individuals and groups enter into negotiations, many people often have a mindset of “mine,” which is a “position-based” approach. It’s a “zero sum” framework, meaning the pizza pie is only so big. Let’s say you have 2 slices and I have 6; if I give you one...
by kbender2 | Mar 27, 2025 | Supporting One Another
We are living in an environment unlike one that we have seen since, perhaps, the McCarthy era. Students, faculty and staff alike are scared that they, or their colleagues/classmates, will be arrested, detained, or deported. Many are concerned that they, or their...
by kbender2 | Mar 14, 2025 | Bravery and Courage
Many people on campus are feeling overwhelmed and helpless with the myriad of changes that are occurring in our country and world. We need, somehow, to find the strength to pull out of our fear and replace it with courage and bravery. In looking for guidance in how...
by kbender2 | Feb 5, 2025 | Uncategorized
I often hear from visitors to the Ombuds Office that they are stressed. These visitors include staff, faculty and students and the causes of short-term stress seem to be coming from three main sources: social media/news, relationship issues, and feeling overwhelmed...
by kbender2 | Jan 24, 2025 | Uncategorized
I recently spent a little time in India and was touched by the warmth and wisdom of the locals with whom I spoke. Their commitment to family and to high ideals was paramount. Many of them also believe in karma and live their lives accordingly. Wanting to learn more...
by kbender2 | Aug 29, 2024 | Uncategorized
I believe that there are many benefits to having a collective activity in your classroom in which everyone is encouraged to contribute to naming the community norms. When we create things (paintings, songs, dances, stories), we care deeply about them, and the same is...
by kbender2 | Aug 29, 2024 | Uncategorized
As we embark on a new academic semester, we need to be mindful that we all need to work and study in an environment where we not only feel, but we know, that we can live, study and communicate peacefully in our college community. We are a family of humans and we...
by kbender2 | Aug 29, 2024 | Uncategorized
A lofty goal is to excel at whatever it is we hope to achieve as human beings. If we want to be a trusted supervisor, a wonderful friend, a terrific employee, a beloved professor, etc., being mindful about the following common characteristics will help immensely:...