There are several huge world conflicts that we are all seeing and trying to understand. At the same time, we all have comparatively smaller matters involving different viewpoints that we navigate each day. Is it important to try to understand the other side? If so, how do you approach that and what is the benefit of trying?
Making an effort to see differing sides of a conflict gives us the opportunity to better understand the other point of view. This is not only important for critical thinking but it also allows us to have empathetic feelings. Going through the steps of seeing something while wearing the other person’s shoes will help in this mind/heart connection. It is not easy, particularly when there are strong emotions, but I believe it is important for humans to try.
In this effort to understand both sides of a conflict, learn what you can without letting personal biases get in the way. Try your best to have an open mind and heart so that you can objectively evaluate both perspectives.
There could be several goals in pursuing this exercise: understanding, compromise or persuasion.
If your goal is self-enlightenment, then it is important to read materials that support both sides and favor fact over opinion. Try not to confirm your own biases and instead keep your eye on understanding from the other perspective.
If your goal is to seek a compromise, you might use the Rogerian technique named for psychotherapist Carl R. Rogers. This strategy seeks to find a common ground between parties. You would make the argument for the opposing position in an unbiased way. You acknowledge that the counter position can be valid in certain circumstances. You then explain your own position in the proper context. By demonstrating the multiple ways to view the complex issues, you expand your understanding of it and, at the same time, you might build a bridge of understanding.
If your goal is to persuade others that your position is correct, you might want to utilize the classic method of the Greek philosophers. You would begin by introducing the issue and its significance. You then explain it in an historical setting and identify the values that the issue contains. At that point, you state your claim, explain your reasons, and include the justifications. You can address counterarguments by stating the position of your opponent and then re-state your stance in a logical manner. Your conclusion should have a succinct statement of your primary points and reiterate the values it supports. Note that in this attempt to persuade, you are not diminishing the other person’s position nor are you disparaging the opponent. You are making a compelling argument based on your thorough research, your clear reasoning, and your laudable values. If the person you are seeking to persuade has a counter-argument, you should show them the same courtesy and listen in order to understand. Do this as an active listener, not as a person who is thinking up their response while the other person is speaking. Lead with curiosity, not with counter-argument.
Regardless of your ultimate goal, it is very important to develop and nourish critical thinking skills. You might want to try it out with an easy topic, such as why the Mediterranean diet is superior to the Western diet. If you attempt a discussion seeking to compromise or to persuade, do it with respect and dignity. Speak in an assertive, not aggressive manner, and seek to understand. If you would like to role play some of these discussions, contact the Ombuds Office.
