I had to go to India in late January to attend religious rituals after my elder sister passed away unexpectedly. It is customary in India to complete the cremation within a few hours of death, the origins of which have to do with the high temperatures and lack of easy access to cooling technologies. This has changed in recent years. Even now, generally, cremation is delayed only for a few important reasons, one of the most important one has to do with who, according to our religion, should carry out the last rites and how far they have to travel. In my sister’s case, there were no compelling reasons to delay the cremation because the person to carry out the last rite was her brother in law, who was right there. Unfortunately, there was another death in the family during my stay there and I participated in the cremation.
For Hindu Brahmins, there is a fairly long list of religious rituals that are carried out over 13 days after the death of a person. Nowadays there is an abridged version that go on from 9th to 13th day, so I was able to go and participate in these. I learned a lot by participating in these events thanks to the priest’s explanations as things were performed. During these days relatives join, recall past memories and participate in the various rituals. These rituals revolve around donation to some of the Brahmins, offering food to the soul of the dead person and a lot of chanting of mantras, all of which is supposed to help the soul rest in peace. Going into further details is daunting and I will leave it there.